To be truthful is to give an accurate account of the state of your own heart and mind. So, the pastor who shares his doubts is being truthful with the church.
Telling the truth, however, is a different matter. Telling the truth is not dependent on what is in our hearts and minds, but what is out there in the world. To tell the truth is to report correctly about the objective facts of the world.
I can tell you something I do not believe and still tell the truth. A man who secretly believes the Holocaust did not happen but says that it did is not being truthful, but he is telling the truth.
See alot of us get mixed up with the truth and being truthful. I have came to conclusion that a lot of males and females in our society suffers from this. For a female or male its simple to just hey i saw my ex today he came over for a couple hours. In fact that was probably the truth but was that person being truthful as to why the real reason was . Things that jump to mind , still have feelings , want some type of revenge or just plain out missed them. This how we win and lose friends, this is how we build and destroy relationships of any sort. This is Truth and Truthful.
My point is its always better to be truthful than just tell the truth. In my own logic the truth is a lie in itself and the only way to tell the truth is to be TRUTHFUL.
Friday, September 23, 2011
Thursday, September 22, 2011
11:08PM September 21st 2011 ...........
As i sit here this morning at my place of work I am still trying to come to terms as to what happened in the state of Georgia lastnight. Troy Anthony Davis was executed for a crime that he probably did not commit. In a case where there was no physical evidence, seven of the nine state witness recanted their stories and a woman's life was threatend by the real killer, really shows how the System and America has failed big time on this one.
To me this looked like a situation where a murder was pinned on a young black african american in the south in 1989 where racism was and still is pretty much alive (in saying that America have come a long way with racial issues but it still goes on). I was told since the case was deemed closed that it could not be re-opened and the stories of the seven witnesses was not adding. So let me get this right the stories became conflicted? Troy is pleading his innocence ? and the only alternative they can use is the Death Penalty wowwwwwwwwwww.
This was a legal lynching ......"Maryland Study Finds that Race and Geography Play Key Roles in Death Penalty - According to the findings of a Governor-commissioned death penalty study conducted by researchers at the University of Maryland, the state's death penalty system is tainted with racial bias, and geography plays a significant role in who faces a capital conviction. The study, one of the nation's most comprehensive official reviews on race and the death penalty, concluded that defendants are much more likely to be sentenced to death if they have killed a white person. See DPIC's Press Release. For more information about the study, see the Executive Summary and Complete Study (Released on January 7, 2003).
There is too many unjust flaws when it comes to the DP in The United States.Troy’s case makes clear that the death penalty system in the U.S. is broken beyond repair. - Denny LeBoeuf
RIP TroyDavis A time will come when we all know the truth.
To me this looked like a situation where a murder was pinned on a young black african american in the south in 1989 where racism was and still is pretty much alive (in saying that America have come a long way with racial issues but it still goes on). I was told since the case was deemed closed that it could not be re-opened and the stories of the seven witnesses was not adding. So let me get this right the stories became conflicted? Troy is pleading his innocence ? and the only alternative they can use is the Death Penalty wowwwwwwwwwww.
This was a legal lynching ......"Maryland Study Finds that Race and Geography Play Key Roles in Death Penalty - According to the findings of a Governor-commissioned death penalty study conducted by researchers at the University of Maryland, the state's death penalty system is tainted with racial bias, and geography plays a significant role in who faces a capital conviction. The study, one of the nation's most comprehensive official reviews on race and the death penalty, concluded that defendants are much more likely to be sentenced to death if they have killed a white person. See DPIC's Press Release. For more information about the study, see the Executive Summary and Complete Study (Released on January 7, 2003).
There is too many unjust flaws when it comes to the DP in The United States.Troy’s case makes clear that the death penalty system in the U.S. is broken beyond repair. - Denny LeBoeuf
RIP TroyDavis A time will come when we all know the truth.
Wednesday, September 21, 2011
HONESTY TIME
Women are so obsessed with their men cheating on them.How can i prove this? Culture. Culture is my proof. All of it Facebook, television shows, parites relentlessly exploit this fear. I get all kinds of questions from women.“Is he cheating on me?” I actually get that question multiple times and I have given up answering it. I have to restrain myself from answering, “Yes. Yes he is.”
Most women know when their man is being unfaithful, it seems like they just play blind to the fact or in fact is blinded by the guy. Once you get that gut feeling that something is going on it usually is so dont be blinded. Its up to you and what you want.
Most women know when their man is being unfaithful, it seems like they just play blind to the fact or in fact is blinded by the guy. Once you get that gut feeling that something is going on it usually is so dont be blinded. Its up to you and what you want.
Thursday, July 28, 2011
JOURNEY TO LONDON 2012
As i sit here writing this blog I write with the intention hopE, prayer and williness to give my all to be at next year's summer olympics in London. Can I reach the ultimate goal that every athlete dream of ? To represent their country at the highest level, walking down the the track on opening night, the lights, the chants and the entire world watching this historic moment.
Well that is my goal to do just that. I have been running track since the age of nine and represented my country of Trinidad and Tobago at junior level. Never have I worn the Red, White and Black at the senior level. Now many would say that I dont have a chance, others may believe in me, but whats most important right now is focus, rest, working hard, being smart, having the right coach chemistry and believeing in myself.
At the age of 18 I was a National Junior Champion. I ran decent times and many predicted me to be the next best thing in the 400m event (46.93 and 21.21) at age 18. I didnt workout that way.
Upon arriving to the United States where i obtained a scholarship to study and run track. It was not a bag of roses at Kansas city Community College. Things wasnt what they seemed when i got there, I had to work, study and train to get by. We had no dorms so paying rent for an apartment was a must. The weather was crazy and injuires devoured my 2yrs at Kansas.
Up next was The University of Alabama who gave me a fresh start. I thanked coach Harvey Glance for the Opportunity and promised i would not fail him. In December of 2006 after a rigorous off-season, I had a 200m indoor race at clemson. I was out in lane 8 and 3 lanes down was Travis Padgett ....one of the premier sprinters in the country at the time. As the gun went off I flew out my blocks and remained patient opening my stride. At about 80 meters in I kept saying ok where is he? where is he? I did not see padgett until the race was over and i won it in 21.8 on a flat tight track. I was ecstatic thinking it was a new beninning . The very next week I tore my left hanstring doing intense speed work getting ready for the season. In a Nutshell I could never stay healthy and no one seemed to know the reason for that.
I graduated and was linked to a Job back home by a close friend of mine and took the opportunity open-handedly. Now i am working and Making Money (a nice sum) might i add, but I just felt something was still missing. I have not accomplish what I truely want. I went to train with Ian Morris former national record holder in the 400m. He ran 44.21 at the Barcelona 92 olympics. I worked with Mr. Morris for 1yr but things did not work out. His Philosophy did not agree with me and i wasnt going to waste my time OR HIS.
The next coach i apporaced was Mr. Charlie Joseph a well respected athlete that represented Trinidad and Tobago in the 1970's. We sat down and discussed somethings and my first year working with him i was very pleased with the way things came alone. SO next yr if God sees it fit for me to be alive there will be trouble in the Camp ...I learned that If God blesses you with a talent you ought not to abuse it but thank him everyday for. Do the right things to maintain that talent.
ONE YEAR...ONE SHOT ...LONDON 2012.
Well that is my goal to do just that. I have been running track since the age of nine and represented my country of Trinidad and Tobago at junior level. Never have I worn the Red, White and Black at the senior level. Now many would say that I dont have a chance, others may believe in me, but whats most important right now is focus, rest, working hard, being smart, having the right coach chemistry and believeing in myself.
At the age of 18 I was a National Junior Champion. I ran decent times and many predicted me to be the next best thing in the 400m event (46.93 and 21.21) at age 18. I didnt workout that way.
Upon arriving to the United States where i obtained a scholarship to study and run track. It was not a bag of roses at Kansas city Community College. Things wasnt what they seemed when i got there, I had to work, study and train to get by. We had no dorms so paying rent for an apartment was a must. The weather was crazy and injuires devoured my 2yrs at Kansas.
Up next was The University of Alabama who gave me a fresh start. I thanked coach Harvey Glance for the Opportunity and promised i would not fail him. In December of 2006 after a rigorous off-season, I had a 200m indoor race at clemson. I was out in lane 8 and 3 lanes down was Travis Padgett ....one of the premier sprinters in the country at the time. As the gun went off I flew out my blocks and remained patient opening my stride. At about 80 meters in I kept saying ok where is he? where is he? I did not see padgett until the race was over and i won it in 21.8 on a flat tight track. I was ecstatic thinking it was a new beninning . The very next week I tore my left hanstring doing intense speed work getting ready for the season. In a Nutshell I could never stay healthy and no one seemed to know the reason for that.
I graduated and was linked to a Job back home by a close friend of mine and took the opportunity open-handedly. Now i am working and Making Money (a nice sum) might i add, but I just felt something was still missing. I have not accomplish what I truely want. I went to train with Ian Morris former national record holder in the 400m. He ran 44.21 at the Barcelona 92 olympics. I worked with Mr. Morris for 1yr but things did not work out. His Philosophy did not agree with me and i wasnt going to waste my time OR HIS.
The next coach i apporaced was Mr. Charlie Joseph a well respected athlete that represented Trinidad and Tobago in the 1970's. We sat down and discussed somethings and my first year working with him i was very pleased with the way things came alone. SO next yr if God sees it fit for me to be alive there will be trouble in the Camp ...I learned that If God blesses you with a talent you ought not to abuse it but thank him everyday for. Do the right things to maintain that talent.
ONE YEAR...ONE SHOT ...LONDON 2012.
Sunday, June 19, 2011
THE NIGHT THAT COULD HAVE BEEN
Home alone with nothing to do so I decided to man up and invite her over to my place. Not just any female this female was one with beauty, intelligence, confidence and sexual appeal like no other. My intentions would be clearer had she come over but this was the that that could have been.I whispered into her ear sweet things that make her weak, gently feed her strawberries and grapes and felt her soft lips roll of my fingers. My hands cradled between her lush thighs, the abundance of her wetness greets me. The essence of her wanting on my tongue excites her. No more bashful cautious approach , I thrusts my tongue in her, caressing her with oral bliss .Making her whine and moan and finding that special spot. Her jaw drops, and toes curl as my tongue, works magic on her pearl. Dripping wet her is body tense as hell.
Ecstasy approaches felling her clit turn numb,using one finger slowly fucking as I continue licking. Shameless she cries out Fuck , I’m Cumming. Grabs my head and folds her legs firmly with a sweetness she alone can explain. Satisfaction, all hers and i Enjoyed every moment of her.
This is The Night That Could have been. Maybe some other time She said my hopes is up hope she does not shoot it dead .
Ecstasy approaches felling her clit turn numb,using one finger slowly fucking as I continue licking. Shameless she cries out Fuck , I’m Cumming. Grabs my head and folds her legs firmly with a sweetness she alone can explain. Satisfaction, all hers and i Enjoyed every moment of her.
This is The Night That Could have been. Maybe some other time She said my hopes is up hope she does not shoot it dead .
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
IS THIS YOUR MAN I HOPE NOT
Many men are obviously verbally cruel and abusive. Others are more subtle.
Although verbal abuse does not leave black eyes or visible bruises, it is often more seriously damaging to your self-image. Verbal abuse is cruel and scars your soul.Many women never discuss verbal abuse. Indeed, some do not even recognize how devious this type of abuse s until its too late.
Often a verbal abuser is quite sensitive to outsiders finding out about the abuse and is very careful to save these scenes for the home environment only. Many verbal abusers are delightful, charming men in public. They treat their spouse or girlfriend with such respect that people often think they "are the perfect couple." They save their cruelty for a private audience of one.
Why do intelligent, warm women permit verbal abuse from boyfriends and later from spouses. I ask myself this question all the time. Do you as a female think there is no one better for you? Do you not want to move on? Your worth way more than your stupid, go loose some weight you pig, girl fuck you, i dont know what i am doing with you. Is that your worth if you are a female in this situation now and your doing nothing about it i have little respect for you. Time to take a stand and get a hold of your of life NO FEMELE I REPEAT NO FEMALE IS WORTH THAT TYPE OF DISRESPECT..............
Thursday, January 20, 2011
WHO DO YOU DRESS FOR???
Recently i notice a lot of dress critics within my beautiful Island of T&T. All of a sudden everyone knows style and what a nigga should wear from what he should not. Now me personally i don't give a fack what you tell me imma wear what i feel like as long im comfortable in my skin its my choice I dress for me.
In this society we are so caught up trying to please others that we forget to do whats best and most comfortable for us. Now i am not saying for you ladies to dye your hair purple and go for a Job interview but there is a time and place for everything. Its not about knocking you if you rock some Jordans to club either. At the end of the day you kept it real and pleased you so thumbs up.
And to all you dress code Critics in Trinidad get a life and focus on your dress game rather than others ................SWAGGG CAH DONE ...JP BLESS
In this society we are so caught up trying to please others that we forget to do whats best and most comfortable for us. Now i am not saying for you ladies to dye your hair purple and go for a Job interview but there is a time and place for everything. Its not about knocking you if you rock some Jordans to club either. At the end of the day you kept it real and pleased you so thumbs up.
And to all you dress code Critics in Trinidad get a life and focus on your dress game rather than others ................SWAGGG CAH DONE ...JP BLESS
Saturday, January 15, 2011
DUNCE SwAgGGG
I know probably sitting reading the heading of this blog and wondering #wtf is *Dunce Swagg*? Well i am about to break it down for you my friends .
We often have responsibility as grown mature adults but i have noticed a lot of people mostly males never take that into consideration. All they care about is SWAGG. Now i have no problem with people wanting to SWAGG , but when your DUMB with it thats where my concern comes in.
I have witnessed many fellas up in the club BALLLINNNNNGG buying all the drinks in sight trying to be the biggest thing that night. The next day their back accounts are empty, they cannot attend to their children needs and broke to go to work. They dress in the latest wear and the females love it to bad and for one night of Fun and Ballllllllllllinnnnng THEY swipe out their VISA or LINX card. They drive the hardest ride but cannot afford 20 dollars gas, they cannot manage themselves much less their family ...........THAT MY FRIENDS IS WHAT I CALL *DUNCE SWAGGG*
We often have responsibility as grown mature adults but i have noticed a lot of people mostly males never take that into consideration. All they care about is SWAGG. Now i have no problem with people wanting to SWAGG , but when your DUMB with it thats where my concern comes in.
I have witnessed many fellas up in the club BALLLINNNNNGG buying all the drinks in sight trying to be the biggest thing that night. The next day their back accounts are empty, they cannot attend to their children needs and broke to go to work. They dress in the latest wear and the females love it to bad and for one night of Fun and Ballllllllllllinnnnng THEY swipe out their VISA or LINX card. They drive the hardest ride but cannot afford 20 dollars gas, they cannot manage themselves much less their family ...........THAT MY FRIENDS IS WHAT I CALL *DUNCE SWAGGG*
Tuesday, November 30, 2010
DONT LIKE THEM .....DATS JUST ME
I know this sounds hypocritical. And I know it's wrong but I can't help feeling this way. I think people that are a combination of just plain stupid and ignorant....have no place on this planet and I don't think it would be a loss if they just....ceased to exist. I mean if someone is not only unintelligent but is also racist, chauvinistic, self-righteous, etc....do we really need them?
I try to be accepting of everyone and I know that no one is perfect and that people can't all fit into this idealistic mold. But seriously, I just have no use for people like this. I just can't stand ignorant people. And unintelligent people frustrate and baffle me. By unintelligent, I mean lacking common sense. I don't care if someone is bad at math, English, or POA. I mean people that just do and say stupid shit without thinking about the consequences, how it affects others, or how it affects others' perception of them. By all means be yourself, but for heaven's sake learn to censor yourself, too.
I know that regardless of how dumb or ignorant a person is, they probably have people that they love and are good to, and people that love them in return. I know this, but I still feel like they are somehow subhuman. It's wrong....but I can't help it. I'm wondering how common it is to feel this way. Again, I know it's hypocritical, so please don't bother pointing that out :)
I try to be accepting of everyone and I know that no one is perfect and that people can't all fit into this idealistic mold. But seriously, I just have no use for people like this. I just can't stand ignorant people. And unintelligent people frustrate and baffle me. By unintelligent, I mean lacking common sense. I don't care if someone is bad at math, English, or POA. I mean people that just do and say stupid shit without thinking about the consequences, how it affects others, or how it affects others' perception of them. By all means be yourself, but for heaven's sake learn to censor yourself, too.
I know that regardless of how dumb or ignorant a person is, they probably have people that they love and are good to, and people that love them in return. I know this, but I still feel like they are somehow subhuman. It's wrong....but I can't help it. I'm wondering how common it is to feel this way. Again, I know it's hypocritical, so please don't bother pointing that out :)
Monday, October 11, 2010
THIS IS NOT AN ACT OF GOD
I sit here very disturbed, confuse and angry today. Yesterday I found out that one of my dearest friends passed away in a vehicular accident. Now i know i am not to judge, but everyone sits there telling me She was ready it was her time and God has plans.
What if that wasnt God's work because i certainly dont think it was. Why would he want to take away such a vibrant and loving NEW mom away from her precious daughter,two loving sister and mother. The devil is just as powerful he is a evil man he does things to make us hurt, turn against God and this was just one of his acts.
For me it is very difficult, I dont know who to be mad at I have a lot questions that cannot be answered. Why is the robber or killers or dictators still alive and Courtney isnt ..if God wanted to take anyone it would be them first right? This is not the work of God and we as people have to wake up and realise the devil is busy very busy.
This is why I try to live right its a very difficut process but it can be done. The worng this is always so much eaiser to do. Do the right thing tell your friends and Family you love them each day so you will have no regrets. Live have fun in the right way.
A Quote from Courtney When she had to leave her bady and head back out to work LAST Month ------MY FIRST DAY BACK TO WORK! I THOUGHT ABOUT SINIA ALLLL DAY!! CRIED A COUPLE OF TIMES..I'VE BEEN WITH HER FOR 6 MONTHS AND IT'S SO HARD TO LET GO! GOTTA GET USE TO THIS! NOW I'M HOME FROM WORK AND GIVING HER ALL MY LOVING! .......
NOW YOU TELL ME
What if that wasnt God's work because i certainly dont think it was. Why would he want to take away such a vibrant and loving NEW mom away from her precious daughter,two loving sister and mother. The devil is just as powerful he is a evil man he does things to make us hurt, turn against God and this was just one of his acts.
For me it is very difficult, I dont know who to be mad at I have a lot questions that cannot be answered. Why is the robber or killers or dictators still alive and Courtney isnt ..if God wanted to take anyone it would be them first right? This is not the work of God and we as people have to wake up and realise the devil is busy very busy.
This is why I try to live right its a very difficut process but it can be done. The worng this is always so much eaiser to do. Do the right thing tell your friends and Family you love them each day so you will have no regrets. Live have fun in the right way.
A Quote from Courtney When she had to leave her bady and head back out to work LAST Month ------MY FIRST DAY BACK TO WORK! I THOUGHT ABOUT SINIA ALLLL DAY!! CRIED A COUPLE OF TIMES..I'VE BEEN WITH HER FOR 6 MONTHS AND IT'S SO HARD TO LET GO! GOTTA GET USE TO THIS! NOW I'M HOME FROM WORK AND GIVING HER ALL MY LOVING! .......
NOW YOU TELL ME
Saturday, September 11, 2010
DEALING WITH WOMEN WHO ARE INSECURE
Insecurity is not a trait limited to women. There are many men who are also insecure, especially if they perceive themselves to be the lesser partner in a relationship. But most often, it seems to be women who are the more insecure of the species.
Insecurity is damaging to a relationship especially when it is totally unjustified. If a woman is insecure and constantly finding fault with her partner as a result, there will come a point when he will get fed up trying to placate her and prefer being with someone who is more deserving of his affection.
But if insecurity is one of her only failings (and you could do worse), it might help to assess the extent of the problem and conduct some damage control. If you are in a relationship and you notice some of these tell-tale signs, without ever having given her reason to feel this way, you are dealing with an insecure woman.
She is always needy. She depends on you for everything and makes you aware of it. She is clingy and wants to be around you all the time.
She is often plagued with doubts about her self-worth and suffers from low self-esteem.
She is suspicious of your every move and you feel you have to account to her for everything.
She often wants access to all your personal communication, cell phone messages, etc.
She makes you feel on edge because you have to be on your guard or defend yourself to her.
She often accuses you of being tempted to cheat on her or of actually being unfaithful and you have never done anything to warrant it.
She complains of being neglected or feeling left out of your life.
While most of us are insecure about something, be it our looks, intelligence or popularity, we tend to deal with it and get on with our lives. We are aware that we are lacking in a certain department, but also reassure ourselves that we compensate for it in another area. Insecurity becomes a problem when it assumes larger-than-life proportions and verges on paranoia. It is worth examining the problem and getting to the root cause of the insecurity, just as any paranoia can be traced to certain deep-rooted fears.
Most often, insecurity stems from a basic lack of confidence. A feeling of just not being good enough and not being able to measure up to expectations, more from the woman herself, than from any external source. It could be early childhood experiences like a harsh growing-up environment, being orphaned, negligent foster care, an abusive parent or being denied love and still craving it.
Sometimes a woman becomes insecure due to severe criticism, either from parents or siblings, that she’s too lazy or inefficient or totally lacking in looks for anyone to ever be attracted to her. Or she may have become insecure more recently when a relationship went sour and she got dumped, or found out that her boyfriend was cheating on her.
Insecurity is damaging to a relationship especially when it is totally unjustified. If a woman is insecure and constantly finding fault with her partner as a result, there will come a point when he will get fed up trying to placate her and prefer being with someone who is more deserving of his affection.
But if insecurity is one of her only failings (and you could do worse), it might help to assess the extent of the problem and conduct some damage control. If you are in a relationship and you notice some of these tell-tale signs, without ever having given her reason to feel this way, you are dealing with an insecure woman.
She is always needy. She depends on you for everything and makes you aware of it. She is clingy and wants to be around you all the time.
She is often plagued with doubts about her self-worth and suffers from low self-esteem.
She is suspicious of your every move and you feel you have to account to her for everything.
She often wants access to all your personal communication, cell phone messages, etc.
She makes you feel on edge because you have to be on your guard or defend yourself to her.
She often accuses you of being tempted to cheat on her or of actually being unfaithful and you have never done anything to warrant it.
She complains of being neglected or feeling left out of your life.
While most of us are insecure about something, be it our looks, intelligence or popularity, we tend to deal with it and get on with our lives. We are aware that we are lacking in a certain department, but also reassure ourselves that we compensate for it in another area. Insecurity becomes a problem when it assumes larger-than-life proportions and verges on paranoia. It is worth examining the problem and getting to the root cause of the insecurity, just as any paranoia can be traced to certain deep-rooted fears.
Most often, insecurity stems from a basic lack of confidence. A feeling of just not being good enough and not being able to measure up to expectations, more from the woman herself, than from any external source. It could be early childhood experiences like a harsh growing-up environment, being orphaned, negligent foster care, an abusive parent or being denied love and still craving it.
Sometimes a woman becomes insecure due to severe criticism, either from parents or siblings, that she’s too lazy or inefficient or totally lacking in looks for anyone to ever be attracted to her. Or she may have become insecure more recently when a relationship went sour and she got dumped, or found out that her boyfriend was cheating on her.
Thursday, August 19, 2010
REGRETS
Usually I think our regrets are because we believe we could have done something else. We want to go back and re-do what we did — to voice our anger differently, to assert our need more strongly, to leave a relationship sooner or stay longer. On occasion something like this may be possible. Our regret may motivate us to learn to voice our anger differently or to re-establish a relationship. We can’t re-do the past, but we may be able to behave differently in the present, including in relationships that have continued into the present from our past.
Sometimes, I think, we regret something even though we recognise we couldn’t have done anything else. I find this much harder to know what to do with. Common advice is to realise that we can’t change the past, to realise that what’s done is done and so forth. These are truisms.
They are truisms that I feel uncomfortable with. I feel that an absolute ‘no regrets’ policy lies perilously close to callousness. So I’d like to examine regret a little.
For me regret involves a comparison, a comparison between what I did or didn’t do with what I could have done or not done. The comparison can be a moral one (what I did or didn’t do compared with what I should have done or not done), but this needn’t be the case: I may regret that I didn’t get the job or that the meeting took longer than it could have, and no moral dimension is involved.
Desire
Regret is bound up with the desire for a situation, or my response to it, to be different to how it was. If nothing else, regret alerts us to a desire that we have. This may be information that is worth having. We may find that we want to live more harmoniously with others, or assert our difference more firmly, or want meetings to run more efficiently.
If we listen to our regrets then we may learn about our desires and values. We can’t change the past, but our regrets may give us information about the direction that we want to head in the future. It may be futile to try to change the past, but if we listen to our regrets we may learn more about who we are.
Do you have regrets? Have you learned from them? Or, have you found that dwelling on them is just a waste of time? I’d like to hear your experience in the comments. Joel JP Pile
Sometimes, I think, we regret something even though we recognise we couldn’t have done anything else. I find this much harder to know what to do with. Common advice is to realise that we can’t change the past, to realise that what’s done is done and so forth. These are truisms.
They are truisms that I feel uncomfortable with. I feel that an absolute ‘no regrets’ policy lies perilously close to callousness. So I’d like to examine regret a little.
For me regret involves a comparison, a comparison between what I did or didn’t do with what I could have done or not done. The comparison can be a moral one (what I did or didn’t do compared with what I should have done or not done), but this needn’t be the case: I may regret that I didn’t get the job or that the meeting took longer than it could have, and no moral dimension is involved.
Desire
Regret is bound up with the desire for a situation, or my response to it, to be different to how it was. If nothing else, regret alerts us to a desire that we have. This may be information that is worth having. We may find that we want to live more harmoniously with others, or assert our difference more firmly, or want meetings to run more efficiently.
If we listen to our regrets then we may learn about our desires and values. We can’t change the past, but our regrets may give us information about the direction that we want to head in the future. It may be futile to try to change the past, but if we listen to our regrets we may learn more about who we are.
Do you have regrets? Have you learned from them? Or, have you found that dwelling on them is just a waste of time? I’d like to hear your experience in the comments. Joel JP Pile
Saturday, August 7, 2010
IS THIS YOUR MATE JEALOUSY
Nothing can ruin a relationship or marriage faster than jealously. Jealousy creates anxiety, anger, loneliness, hate, fear. No one thinks clearly when jealous.Having a relationship with a jealous person is tough. The jealous person acts untrusting or unworthy. Jealousy makes the person unattractive, even repulsive
No one wants a jealous mate and no one likes being jealous.
I encountered a female who told me that her man does not want her talking to me. I was flattered ..just kidding, I then asked her how many male friend he has prevented you having regular conversations with? She answered quite a few.
My thing is what causes jealousy? "Jealousy is the largest factor in breaking up marriages. Jealousy comes about because of the insecurity of the jealous person and the jealousy may or may not have foundation. This person is afraid of hidden communication lines and will do anything to try to uncover them." — L. Ron Hubbard.
Most time a jealous person is dealing with their own insecurities and taking thier frustration out on their significant other.
1.If you are jealous, you need to communicate. You need to stop assuming the worst and ask questions. Communicate your feelings so you can work out solutions
2. Resolve the mysteries of the past. Discuss your feelings in the present. Make plans for the future. Because of communication, your relationship will be a big success
3.AS FOR THAT DUDE YOU WANTED HIS GIRL TO STOP TALKING TO ME HE IS NOW CRYING AND BEGGING TO HAVE HER BACK SHE GOT *FED UP* AS WE TRINI DOES SAY. That is some pain you dont want fellas or ladies ..the woman or man you love leaving you because of your insecurities .IT CUTS DEEPER THAN A KNIEF
No one wants a jealous mate and no one likes being jealous.
I encountered a female who told me that her man does not want her talking to me. I was flattered ..just kidding, I then asked her how many male friend he has prevented you having regular conversations with? She answered quite a few.
My thing is what causes jealousy? "Jealousy is the largest factor in breaking up marriages. Jealousy comes about because of the insecurity of the jealous person and the jealousy may or may not have foundation. This person is afraid of hidden communication lines and will do anything to try to uncover them." — L. Ron Hubbard.
Most time a jealous person is dealing with their own insecurities and taking thier frustration out on their significant other.
1.If you are jealous, you need to communicate. You need to stop assuming the worst and ask questions. Communicate your feelings so you can work out solutions
2. Resolve the mysteries of the past. Discuss your feelings in the present. Make plans for the future. Because of communication, your relationship will be a big success
3.AS FOR THAT DUDE YOU WANTED HIS GIRL TO STOP TALKING TO ME HE IS NOW CRYING AND BEGGING TO HAVE HER BACK SHE GOT *FED UP* AS WE TRINI DOES SAY. That is some pain you dont want fellas or ladies ..the woman or man you love leaving you because of your insecurities .IT CUTS DEEPER THAN A KNIEF
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
THEY ARE ALL OVER I KNOW A FEW
Whats up peeps today i cover a topic that is very delicate, but worth writing because you can use it to turn what may appear to be a bad situation into a positive one. Some livid immature people usually have loud mouths and are very negative( I know A few myself). For whatever reason, they decide they don't like something you have done, something you have said or just take offense at you in general.
This kind of immature people use strong language which is overly negative and very accusatory. They often lack maturity which compounds your frustrations because you can't respond to them with maturity, they will just throw more accusations at you without acknowledging your point of view. You can't compete with them by arguing because that's what they specialize in.
HOW TO DEAL WITH THIS KIND OF IMMATURE PEOPLE
In most cases it's best to just not respond unless of course you have done something wrong and you need to apologize. You are better off letting your friends and supporters back you up and just ignore the livid people altogether. The negativity the people is generating will (unfortunately) come back at them and they will suffer more as a result, probably leading them to attacking more people, creating a cycle of negativity. You want to avoid getting caught up in it. Some people will be just plain rude and rowdy.
HOW DO YOU RESPOND?
The issue we face is how to respond to comments that are negative.
- You could delete them.
- You could block them.
- You could censor them.
- You could respond in anger.
- You could respond in kind.
"IF YOU CAN'T SAY ANYTHING NICE DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL"
You should know that phrase - it's one of those our mothers teach us when young. It's perfect for situations like this, apply it to yourself when dealing with this people. Unruly people who make fun of others usually have a low self-image. If that doesn't work and their inappropriate and childish behaviour continues, just ignore them! They trying to intimidate you . I always believe in my experience these people are hard to stop. You can end up looking like the baddie if you retort with something really scathing at them.. so just simply ignore those sick childish silly immature foolish people!
TURN NEGATIVITY INTO A POSITIVE
The technique to deal with negative comments is to use them to show how mature you are and demonstrate your credibility. If you respond to negative comments without anger, with no negative emotion and with a calm "your side of the story" response, you will gain the respect of your friends and even have the immature ass even more livid lol.
In most cases this people will end up making themselves look a lot worse than you simply because of how they express themselves. When you compare a person who is rational, not overly emotional and calm against someone who is attacking with highly charged emotional accusations, it's pretty clear who comes out looking the best.
But you can be confident if you stick to your true self and remain calm, you will come out on top in their eyes. Better still, you will enhance your reputation and credibility even further, despite the best efforts of the people to bring you down, which I think is a lovely piece of irony - the person who attacks you ends up boosting your public standing because they give you an opportunity to show what kind of person you really are.
This kind of immature people use strong language which is overly negative and very accusatory. They often lack maturity which compounds your frustrations because you can't respond to them with maturity, they will just throw more accusations at you without acknowledging your point of view. You can't compete with them by arguing because that's what they specialize in.
HOW TO DEAL WITH THIS KIND OF IMMATURE PEOPLE
In most cases it's best to just not respond unless of course you have done something wrong and you need to apologize. You are better off letting your friends and supporters back you up and just ignore the livid people altogether. The negativity the people is generating will (unfortunately) come back at them and they will suffer more as a result, probably leading them to attacking more people, creating a cycle of negativity. You want to avoid getting caught up in it. Some people will be just plain rude and rowdy.
HOW DO YOU RESPOND?
The issue we face is how to respond to comments that are negative.
- You could delete them.
- You could block them.
- You could censor them.
- You could respond in anger.
- You could respond in kind.
"IF YOU CAN'T SAY ANYTHING NICE DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL"
You should know that phrase - it's one of those our mothers teach us when young. It's perfect for situations like this, apply it to yourself when dealing with this people. Unruly people who make fun of others usually have a low self-image. If that doesn't work and their inappropriate and childish behaviour continues, just ignore them! They trying to intimidate you . I always believe in my experience these people are hard to stop. You can end up looking like the baddie if you retort with something really scathing at them.. so just simply ignore those sick childish silly immature foolish people!
TURN NEGATIVITY INTO A POSITIVE
The technique to deal with negative comments is to use them to show how mature you are and demonstrate your credibility. If you respond to negative comments without anger, with no negative emotion and with a calm "your side of the story" response, you will gain the respect of your friends and even have the immature ass even more livid lol.
In most cases this people will end up making themselves look a lot worse than you simply because of how they express themselves. When you compare a person who is rational, not overly emotional and calm against someone who is attacking with highly charged emotional accusations, it's pretty clear who comes out looking the best.
But you can be confident if you stick to your true self and remain calm, you will come out on top in their eyes. Better still, you will enhance your reputation and credibility even further, despite the best efforts of the people to bring you down, which I think is a lovely piece of irony - the person who attacks you ends up boosting your public standing because they give you an opportunity to show what kind of person you really are.
Friday, May 21, 2010
INTERESTING DAY
As I sit here writing this blog i must say that yesterday was a very interesting day. I was off from work and had absolutely nothing to do yet found out so much. I discovered that Tiger Woods wife wanted 750million dollars. Honestly if that had been me it would have been over my dead body i was going to the grave in the court house. Is this woman serious i thought ...I said to myself its one out of two thing GREED or SPITE boy women are some evil creatures when they mad and hurt. I debated back on forth with females who thought she was right and there wasn't any easing up with their opinion lol which they are entitled to.
I then decided to cook a meal which was a combination of lentel peas, stew chicken and rice. Yes i am quite equipped as a cook. These were the words of my mother growing up *don't let no woman cut style on you* and I i listened to every bit of it. Sadly i didn't live up to my best today i burned the chicken busy on Facebook.
Dont laugh at me i sure you too have burned the pot at some point in life so dont be to hard on me :).
But what i really wanted to talk about in my blog was the rumor that Lebron James mother was fucking his teammate Delonte West. Now first i would like to say if i found any my friends or teammates even looking at my mom i will trip. You have to have a level of respect. No wonder why Lebron Played like that in that series,he had just gotten the news before the game. Mr.West I really think you fucked up team chemistry and cost your team an NBA ring . I am a Lebron fan he i and bolt is the two most gifted athletes on this planet, but there is nothing you can do when something is messing with you emotionally and psychologically. There is so much women in Cleavland why would you choose to put your team chemistry and an NBA title at risk by F...king your star player's mom.
BOY IF I WAS LEBRON YOUR ASSS WOULD BE LONGGG GONEEEEEEEEEE
I then decided to cook a meal which was a combination of lentel peas, stew chicken and rice. Yes i am quite equipped as a cook. These were the words of my mother growing up *don't let no woman cut style on you* and I i listened to every bit of it. Sadly i didn't live up to my best today i burned the chicken busy on Facebook.
Dont laugh at me i sure you too have burned the pot at some point in life so dont be to hard on me :).
But what i really wanted to talk about in my blog was the rumor that Lebron James mother was fucking his teammate Delonte West. Now first i would like to say if i found any my friends or teammates even looking at my mom i will trip. You have to have a level of respect. No wonder why Lebron Played like that in that series,he had just gotten the news before the game. Mr.West I really think you fucked up team chemistry and cost your team an NBA ring . I am a Lebron fan he i and bolt is the two most gifted athletes on this planet, but there is nothing you can do when something is messing with you emotionally and psychologically. There is so much women in Cleavland why would you choose to put your team chemistry and an NBA title at risk by F...king your star player's mom.
BOY IF I WAS LEBRON YOUR ASSS WOULD BE LONGGG GONEEEEEEEEEE
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