FOR THE TOTERS ''''STOP IT

When someone is experiencing "TOTEING"  for no real reason then their imagination needs training. For it is the imagination that causes these feelings of  "toteing", when people visualise, for example, their one night stand with someone else. This can cause a whole host of problems associated with these toteing  feelings, from anxiety and panic, to anger when their partner simply looks at another person. Toters it is not your job to tote because you got some ass with an agreement that it was just a beat.


Another reason for "toting" can occur when, say, someone else gets promoted at work and you feel you should have got the job. Or toteing can rear it's ugly head if your talking to a girl anf her friend likes you. I am not sure there is a cure for toteing just yet, but its all over, its on your bed, car, at the beach, the club even when going to pee at a public restroom.


TOTEIING occasionally causes the person to be withdrawn and moody, but more often than not results in anger or even fury. Afterwards the person feels remorse, and often frustration with themselves, irritation with their inability to control their thoughts and feelings, anxiety and even depression. Often the person on the receiving end of the "toteing" is utterly surprised and bewildered by their partner's response. Also, many people on the receiving end learn to live in trepidation of the person outbursts. The 'toter will often show repeating patterns of behaviour from previous toteing.

We have alot of toters in Trinidad today i kindly ask you to stop toteing...its not cool makes you look TINY. If you are a 7 days of the week toter i ask you to trying and limit your toteing to 3 days of toteing and 4 days of a normal regular life. Toteing isnt against the law just yet but if yall continue it sure will


STOP TOTINGGGGGGGGG

Marital Abuse --YOU HAVE THE POWER

Getting yourself out of an busive relationship is difficult, but when there is a marriage involved, the steps become more complicated. Emotionally, you have your own possible ambivalence to contend with, as well as the continuing programming and influence of your abuser to deal with. However, if you are feeling increasingly inferior, incompetent, or even crazy around your partner, leaving may be the best option to preserve your emotional, physical and mental well being.


Of course, if you feel there is any chance that the emotional abuse may turn into physical (which happens in alot of cases), please contact a counselor who specializes in domestic violence issues, or a domestic violence shelter to construct a "safe plan" for escape. Otherwise, know it will be a rocky road, but you will make it through.  There are alot of ways you can help right here in Trinidad , use your resources.

Nobody has the right to lay their hands on you. There is nothing on the marriage license that says that because you are marrying this person that you have to endure a lifetime of being abused by them. A marriage is supposed to be a commitment for two people who love each other and make each other happy. The first time a man would even think of laying his hands on you, you should be out of there.

My advice to you all who are being abused. I really think you should contact the police and inform them about the abuse. Do Not give in to the "I am sorry" slogan thats what abusers do ..ALL THE TIME. Don't be scared to act, especially if you don't want your children  to grow up in a dysfunctional home. Have your entire family get a restraining order against him.He is not worth anything and you need to get out with your children if you have any.Once the court finds out how abusive  he is, he will not get custody.Find a woman’s shelter, a friend’s home, or a new home of your own. Safely time your move and keep your new address from your husband. (800-SAVE Domestic hotline in T&T for info on shelters). The process might be mentally tasking and difficult but its worth it in the end .

Get a cell phone. Don’t give the number to your husband. Block your number so it isn’t available to people you call. Only give your number to trustworthy family and friends.  I know most females dont like this but talk with your employer about the situation to prevent the inadvertent disclosure of personal information to your husband. Express the need to keep the information confidential, disclosing it only to those who would potentially have contact with your husband. Take all important documents with you and KEEP IT SAFE.


Change is never easy; especially if you've been mentally and physically beaten down, you may not believe you can do it. Look to stories of women who've made it out for inspiration.....YOU DESERVE BETTER

SPARTACUS ....NOTHING LIKE IT

I have  recently engaged in a new hit series called Spartacus: Blood and Sand. and after its first two episodes i was well-convinced that it was best show on planet yes "planet earth". The depiction of the Roman society in all its splendor and lust is notable as well as the violence. This is serious, breath taking and worth every second.The opening fight sequence is yet another brutal, bloody and brilliantly choreographed affair. Seriously, kept  the violence "fresh" each week.

When I say "serious," I mean that it is not a lot of laughs, not that it engages any profound or complex issues. The motivations here are all very basic -- sex, power and money on the part of the badder guys, and love and freedom on the part of the better. It will leave you wanting more and more after each epidsode. It's crept up to the top of my list as a must watch show and one that I've found myself recommending to anyone who asks me what they should be watching.

Spartacus was betrayed by the Romans. Forced into slavery. reborn as a Gladiator. The classic tale of the Republic's most infamous rebel comes alive in the graphic nature Spartacus: Blood and Sand. Torn from his homeland and the woman he loves, Spartacus is condemned to the brutal world of the arena where blood and death are primetime entertainment. But not all battles are fought upon the sands. Treachery, corruption, and the allure of sensual pleasures will constantly test Spartacus. To survive, he must become more than a man. More than a gladiator.

Well according to TRINIS if you love "baccahanal" the women of this show will give you it . Talk about comess.. with those females.The women are really running the show they make think and wonder are all females this tricky lol.

Andy Whitfield has the requisite physicality for the title role. Beyond that, it's hard to assess his performance because his character is so consistently two-dimensional. He endures unendurable pain and bears unbearable sorrow, always without complaint. His goal is to reunite with his wife, Sura (Erin Cummings), who also was sold into slavery and who makes occasional appearances in dreams and flashbacks.

Spartacus is a must see series it ALLYUH GO GET HOOK lol..and i must end with the line of all lines ..*KILL THEM ALL*

STOP IT ..YOU HAVE THE POWER ...ITS MAKES ME SICK

There is nothing more disturbing to me than child abuse stories, except actual child abuse. I just don’t understand people who can do this to their children, or any child for that matter. Children should be protected, not harmed. In my field of work I encounter at least 34 serious abuse cases per month right here in Trinidad and Tobago that's over 360 per yr. I know there are alot more for a fact because i see child abuse in this country on a daily basis. Now i would love to share some of the horrific cases i have encountered while working at childline but its against our confidentially policy that we have to protect both our callers and victims. People of Trinidad and Tobago it is not pretty makes you want to vomit or choke the perpetrators who is committing these acts against our children.

There are two main problems. One is that people don’t want to involve themselves. They see something that bothers or disturbs them but instead of investigating it or reporting it they come up with some logical explanation to explain things away. I would rather be the person who cried wolf than find out I should have reported it and did not. Two, child abuse is usually hidden. Children are trained not to tell or admit it is happening. Child abuse stories need to be heard, and be used to wake people up. Make them understand that it is really happening. Child abuse is one of those things people would rather not know about. Maybe one store being shared will help others identify a child who needs help, and motivate them to offer that helping hand. As adults it is our job to protect children, even when they are not ours.


Please I know alot of you see it and wont say cause you think its not your business. Last week i was heading home from work and what i saw hurted me. It was a father standing with his 7yr old daughter ...mind you guys i was in my car driving by, all i heard was GET IN THE F.......KING CAR GIRL and he slapped her so hard i couldn't believe what my eyes was seeing IN PUBLIC. Now i was helpless because i didn't know the man, where he lived , his name or daughter's name ...BUT guess what someone knows who lives close and wont come out and take a stand for what is right. These are our children our future, they have rights as well just as an adult and any other person. ...THERE is Incest,Physical, sexual, emotional, Neglect and Verbal abuse all over Trinidad and Tobago but we really need help from the public to assist.


We have a group on FB about our organization with all our contact info here is the link 
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000098567814&ref=profile#!/group.php?gid=9765349106&ref=ts

SNAKES I CALL THEM

Well, I have to be honest, this wasn't something I mastered, it’s something I had to learn, and practice. I never realized just how many times a day someone tries to steal your joy. They say that Miserere love company and I never thought about that as I went through most of  my teenage life and my early 20s , I might of heard it a few times from relatives that always seemed to care and felt it was their responsibility of passing on a few bit of wisdom for me to take along my journeys, but I used to hear allot of those kind of cliché, and as I gathered some of my own personal wisdom along the way as I traveled through life thus far.


I have been on this place call Earth for 26years and the amount of negative, envious and bad-minded  people i came across its a shame. These people never wanted to see me move forward as an individual and try to keep me down. I have learned to to get rid of those people in my life and be surrounded by positivity and let those viscous people live their lives. usually  hey will not admit they are envious typically. Steer away from this person. Keep away until they confess and say sorry. If not keep away, you can not afford to keep envious people in your private world. People that envy you are not your friends.


I am at a point in my life that i will not stand for bullshit if you have problems dont bring them at me in a way that will bring me down as well. They come in all forms and fashion so beware and DONT LET NO ONE STEAL YOUR JOY ...HOPE YALL *ROGER THAT*

I LOVE YOU LOVE WE ALL LOVE IT FACEBOOK THAT IS

Well we  already know that Facebook can be an incredible tool for building and strengthening friendships and relationships. Well i say relationships too because not all of them are a living hell due to facebook but most are lol. Boi I tell you some people are way too jealous. Imagine someone wrote on your saying "whats up baby" and your significant other saw it . Your day goes from being ok to being investigated like your bandit ........WHO IS SHE ...WHY SHE WRITING ON YOUR WALL...YALL 4KING ......GIVE ME YOUR PASSWORDS.......NO PUSSY FOR YOUR ASS TONIGHT..........and the list goes on. If you know you are the jealous type please do not add your spouse as a friend . They will search to find any little thing and make it a big big big issue...come to an agreement say babes or hun i dont think its a good idea we be friends on facebook . I know that is not likely though but its worth a try LOL...........Another thing PLEASEEEEE dont post your relationships issues on facebook its only going to make things worst. It is not cool to air your frustrations to all your friends and make your partner *Look Bad* ..If that is done then your ass is looking for trouble.


Well Females do this the best she will usually ask a question on her status which will do something like this ...*want something to do tonight cause people sickening me what is have to do peepS?* LOL NOW imagine u and your man now argue and then he sees that on your status 9 times out of 10 your ass looking for trouble.

Facebook I love it , You love it we all love it but be very careful with your relationship on this site it DESTROYS ....

IF YOU DONT DO IT ANOTHER MAN WILL

TO all my trini players or girls men as we say when you think you really have your girl on lock .....YOUR WRONG MAN. I have observed many of you that think you have GOLD while you play around and ur girl is at home  SO YOU THINK.  "LMBAO" ...dog I want you to know man to man that  female needs a desire for emotional closeness and intimacy (someone caring to confide in and bond with on an emotional level) if you cannot provide that ANOTHER MAN WILL....

a female has desire for attention (wanting to be at the center of her man’s attention again) if you cant provide that ANOTHER MAN WILL...A Female needs you to reaffirm her desirability (To feel validated as a woman) if you cant provide that ANOTHER MAN WILL, If you are not providing sexual excitement and the desire for her to feel special believe you me ANOTHER MAN WILL....and you know whats the sad part YOU MAY NEVER EVER KNOW LOL...............AND IS DATTTTT

SILVERRRR MORE LIKE GOLD TO ME

The Stadium is in a HUSH, My heart is racing and so is the rest of my country. USAIN insane BOLT as i call him  Kixing on the Line..while 7 other athletes is deep in focus. BOLT in Lane 3 and our very on Torpedo Thompson in 4 ..yes they were along-side each other and ready to take a place history. As the gun went off  Thompson flew out the blocks like a Rocket, staying patient in his drive phase he was ahead at 50m. Then came the talent of bolt the only man to past Thompson on that Magical night and it took a world record to do so. I ran out the road screaming and hearing the whole of my neighbourhood in  AH frenzzzyyyyy ...is who was wineing, jumping and ready to hit de bar and celebrate. I remember one of my boys saying *Pile boi that man Bad where he come out from* I watched and smiled

 Its a shame to know that it has to take an Olympic final to get known in this country. Leading up a alot of people did not know that Thompson was one of the hottest sprinters in the world. He was undefeated All through his collegiate yr and almost broke our very own Ato Boldon's NCAA 100M record. For 9 seconds the country stopped everything ..NO QUARRELS   NO FIGHTS     NO CRIME ........he won the GOLD in my book

THIS SONG IS REALLY DEEP

Sometimes no matter how much of support you have got you really do feel alone ..its a stage in life we all go through real talk

BOI YALL ARE THE MOST CONFUSING CREATURES ON PLANET EARTH

One thing that I will always 100% know about women, is that I’ll never 100% understand women. I’ve tried through experience, through listening, through observation. Women are like LOST: Every time I seem to get close to all the answers about 100 more pop up in its place.
You tell your baby that tonight you going and drink some beers with the boys (STAG of Course). She looks so pleased and happy yeA Babes go on have fun, be careful ok. As you pick your car keys up you get the steer ...yes yall know the steer...its the look when a female means ooo SOO "de fucker really going and leave me here alone" Then on your way you get the piss me off text.
Another thing that's confusing I see that a lot of women had more of an issue with the use of bitch then the actual message. I wasn’t raised to call a woman out their name, and growing up with my mom , I attained a higher level of respect for women. Don’t get me wrong, I will call siblings every word in the book, but I’ve seen too many circumstances where men utter this word and the gates of hell open in front of their eyes. I’m not sure what switch this sets off but unless you are another woman, a gay man, or “cute enough to slip it in quick without her knowing #TWSS” I wouldn’t try to call women this name, or you’ll be spitting up teeth to the beat of U.N.I.T.Y ..
On my Facebook page i see this shit all the time GIRLS CALLING GIRLS WHATS up BITCHHHH ...sometimes i get excited and want to chip in and say bitch too .. but i know I wont hear the last of it simply because of my GENDER.

SHE LOVES ME SHE LOVES ME NOT

Let's face it, relationships are hard work. But as human beings we need to be in relationship: we have an inbuilt biological drive to be in contact with other human beings.What no-one ever tells us is that relationships are hard work. You could compare a relationship to a dance between two partners (or in some less orthodox cases more than two) where each partner is listening to a different tune and rhythm and they are dancing according to a different set of steps. To make the endeavor workable, possibly even graceful and good fun, a lot of resilience, trust, negotiation, willingness to compromise, skill and humor is needed. Again, this isn't really stuff that is taught to us before hand, and we often believe that a relationship is supposed to save us from all our problems, rather than throw all our failings into greater relief.

I observed a lot of females hold on to relationships that brings them noting but unhappiness and *drama* as well all say.Whats the reason for this? Is it shame, Fright , unwillingness to go out there and seek love once again? that's a question i often ask. So where does that leave us? Probably with a lot to learn, but also with a great opportunity for personal growth and shared happiness. The bottom line for me is that when relationships do work they are fun and a source of great pleasure and security, but when they don't they can make one rather miserable. On the whole, though, they do work - or at least can be made to work - with the right skills, and in co-operation with your partner. And to me, not a lot of things in life seem to be as worthwhile as investing in as one's relationship.