Let's face it, relationships are hard work. But as human beings we need to be in relationship: we have an inbuilt biological drive to be in contact with other human beings.What no-one ever tells us is that relationships are hard work. You could compare a relationship to a dance between two partners (or in some less orthodox cases more than two) where each partner is listening to a different tune and rhythm and they are dancing according to a different set of steps. To make the endeavor workable, possibly even graceful and good fun, a lot of resilience, trust, negotiation, willingness to compromise, skill and humor is needed. Again, this isn't really stuff that is taught to us before hand, and we often believe that a relationship is supposed to save us from all our problems, rather than throw all our failings into greater relief.
I observed a lot of females hold on to relationships that brings them noting but unhappiness and *drama* as well all say.Whats the reason for this? Is it shame, Fright , unwillingness to go out there and seek love once again? that's a question i often ask. So where does that leave us? Probably with a lot to learn, but also with a great opportunity for personal growth and shared happiness. The bottom line for me is that when relationships do work they are fun and a source of great pleasure and security, but when they don't they can make one rather miserable. On the whole, though, they do work - or at least can be made to work - with the right skills, and in co-operation with your partner. And to me, not a lot of things in life seem to be as worthwhile as investing in as one's relationship.
I observed a lot of females hold on to relationships that brings them noting but unhappiness and *drama* as well all say.Whats the reason for this? Is it shame, Fright , unwillingness to go out there and seek love once again? that's a question i often ask. So where does that leave us? Probably with a lot to learn, but also with a great opportunity for personal growth and shared happiness. The bottom line for me is that when relationships do work they are fun and a source of great pleasure and security, but when they don't they can make one rather miserable. On the whole, though, they do work - or at least can be made to work - with the right skills, and in co-operation with your partner. And to me, not a lot of things in life seem to be as worthwhile as investing in as one's relationship.
i think i understand the message you are sending and i agree in most respects ... but do you think that its possible that 2 people could never be compatible? in order words, while with the right skills relationships could work, are they just some personality types that could NEVER mesh?
ReplyDeleteEVEN though a couple may not like the same thing ..in a relationship one must be willing to compromise...lets say both of you yall is arguing about an idea. One must say ok hunni you do it your way,..but the KEY is not to bash him or her if it goes wrong...just try your idea next..Any couple can make it as long communication is sole part of it
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